You may have learned to stay safe by being careful, accommodating, and emotionally vigilant. 

Maybe you find yourself scanning the room for signs that someone is upset. Even when no one is directly angry with you, tension or frustration in others can leave you feeling anxious, guilty, or on edge. You might feel responsible for fixing it, smoothing things over, or keeping the peace—often at the expense of your own needs.

Many people I work with carry a deep sense of shame underneath these patterns. A part of you may believe that if someone is upset, you’ve done something wrong. Another part may work hard to be “good enough,” perfect, or emotionally invisible to avoid conflict altogether. Over time, this can lead to exhaustion, resentment, and a quiet loss of yourself.

In my work, we don’t assume these responses are flaws. Instead, we see them as protective strategies—parts of you that learned early on how to stay safe, connected, or accepted. While these parts may now feel overwhelming or limiting, they developed for a reason.

Therapy is a space to slow down and get curious about what’s happening inside, rather than judging or trying to fix yourself. Together, we gently explore the parts of you that feel responsible for others’ emotions, the parts that carry shame or fear of being “too much” or “not enough,” and the parts that have learned to suppress your own needs to keep relationships stable.

As you begin to understand these inner dynamics, something shifts. You can respond to emotional intensity—your own or others’—with more steadiness and choice. You learn to set boundaries without guilt, express your needs with more confidence, and stay connected to yourself even when others are upset.

You don’t have to earn your worth by managing everyone else’s emotions. Healing is possible, and it starts with meeting yourself with compassion rather than criticism.

The main models I use in individual therapy are EMDR, Internal Family Systems, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. 

I am also trained in cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT-i). 

Please contact me by email or phone if you have any questions or would like to schedule an appointment.